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Musings From Hemlock Hollow's avatar

What a lovely & thought- provoking piece, Jena. Thank you! The reflection on shame brings up so many occasions of being in circles with women and discussing what we’d like to let go of during a session or ceremony. There are so many common issues weighing us down time after time that we all carry until we have gone through enough cycles of repeated attempts to let go they will start to fade away over time. I am personally still finding the bandaids getting ripped off of issues I thought were resolved long ago, and have to keep working on them.

I loved your poem featured in the other publication, and feel very aligned with your words. Congratulations!

In closing your musings on shame brought up a piece written by author Patti Digh entitled “Your Beautiful” I would love to share with you if I can find the link. Brightest Blessings 🙏🏻🌟🪷

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Janice Shade's avatar

Thank you for this question. So interesting that the very thing I love about myself is also a source of deep-rooted shame. Almost 20 years ago I left a good-paying job and stable career path to heed the entrepreneurial voice in my head whose whispers had become a shout. I'm proud of what I've accomplished in all that time and yet it's come at significant cost (i.e. personal financial stability). There's long been a competing voice in my head with its sinister whispers about self-indulgence and the financial burden I've placed on my partner. How can I raise my children to believe they can and should follow their dreams when I struggle with shame about following my own? This, by the way, is precisely what my "self-indulgent" work has been about all these years -- working to change capitalism and financial systems toward more balanced and equitable opportunities for all, not just those who, as you say, were "either born into or come into identities or positions that equal more privilege...." If we can ever de-couple things like success, self-actualization, and abundance from purely financial measurements the world will be a very different -- much better -- place.

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